While Lorelai is talking with her father, Emily at first tries to defend Straub as a good man, highly intelligent, who was one of the top lawyers in an obscure field of international law, and a great contributor to the community through his charity work. She then drops the charade, and says he’s always been a big ass. Most importantly, she lets Rory know that never, for even one second, has Rory herself ever been a disappointment to them. It’s something Rory needs to hear.
Emily then gives Rory some cold leftovers, which look like a roast potato and a couple of asparagus spears; it doesn’t seem like an adequate meal. What about the leftover roast meat? At least make her a sandwich, Emily!