LORELAI: I got spooked. I know it violates the fabulous cool mom clause we’re supposed to have going but I did and I’m sorry.
After talking to Emily, Lorelai goes straight to Rory to apologise for not being a “fabulous cool mom” about Jess. Even though she’s concerned about Jess, she is going to trust Rory’s judgement. She only asks that Rory be careful, and cut Dean some slack for getting freaked out.
Is Lorelai really neutral, when in her view, Jess needs care and good judgement to proceed, even if he is behaving well, while Dean needs understanding for any of his bad behaviour?
The Annotated Gilmore Girls 