“Someone who complements you”

RORY: And then, probably when you’re not looking, you’ll find someone who complements you … Someone who likes what you like, someone who reads the same books or listens to the same music or likes to trash the same movies. Someone compatible … But not so compatible that they’re boring … I mean, you respect each other’s opinions and you can laugh at the same jokes, but I don’t know – there’s just something about not quite knowing what the other person’s gonna do at all times that’s just really exciting.

Rory (with her vast experience of dating one boy she doesn’t even love any more) tells Paris how to know when she has found the right person. Except that Rory’s description of the perfect partner – reads the same books, laughs at the same jokes, respects your opinions, is unpredictable and exciting – sounds a lot like Jess, and not at all like Dean, who doesn’t read or joke, doesn’t respect Rory’s opinions, and is predictable and boring. Hmm!

7 thoughts on ““Someone who complements you”

      1. I think she’s definitely talking about how she feels about Jess without thinking too much about it initially, but when she realizes what she’s saying, or rather whom she’s talking about (i.e. not her boyfriend), she sort of backtracks and just goes “you’ll figure it out”.

        By the way, I have to thank you from the bottom of my heart for this blog! So many references that I’ve had trouble with over the years would have been instantly explained, had I known the Annotated Gilmore Girls existed!

        You also point out references that I didn’t even know where references, which adds even more layers to the whole understanding of the series.

        Also, I enjoy reading that it’s not only me that’s confused with timelines, continuity errors and retconning from time to time. Though, despite the frustration and annoyance, I still come back to this show after more than twenty years so they obviously got something right. 🙂

        Thank you for all your hard work on this, it is very much appreciated by us non-Americans!


      2. Yes, I think you’re right about Rory – she catches herself and then rapidly backs out of the situation.

        Thank you so much for your thoughtful and lovely comments. I know I miss dozens more references myself, but I do my best – the Palladinos can be very subtle in the way they use allusions. I think you often only notice the timeline issues when you rewatch again and again – they’re probably common on TV. I’m not American either, so I tend to include anything where I felt confused as to what a word or phrase actually meant.


    1. Funny what you said about Rory’s vast experience dating one boy 😂 although it’s fair to assume she’s done a lot of reading about romantic love, informing her rather sweet expectations of how true love should feel.


      1. True, she’s getting her ideas from books, and from her experiences comparing Dean and Jess. She’s got the theory pretty right!


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