LANE: I finally have a first love, like what you and Dean have.
RORY: Right . . . exactly.
As Lane compares her feelings for Dave for how Rory feels about Dean, it couldn’t be made clearer that not only does Rory not love Dean, but that perhaps she never loved him – not in the all-consuming way that most young girls feel about their first love (and not in the all-consuming, obsessive way that Dean and Jess feel about Rory). Love is much more complicated for Rory, because the message she received from her parents’ situation is that first love doesn’t last, it doesn’t work out, and it may in fact be a mistake with far-reaching consequences.
No wonder Rory quickly backs out of the conversation.
The Annotated Gilmore Girls 