Tristan and Rory Kiss

TRISTAN: You are very odd, you know that?
RORY: Thank you.
TRISTAN: You’re welcome. [he kisses her. Rory pulls away crying] I’m sorry, what did I do? Did I bite your lip or something?
RORY: No, it’s not you. It’s just – I have to go. [runs out crying.]

It’s notable that Rory said “thank you” to Dean after he first kissed her, and now she says “thank you” just before Tristan kisses her. It is being kissed by Tristan which reminds Rory of her feelings for Dean, and this is what opens the floodgates so that she is ready to cry and mourn for their relationship.

The Art of Eating

This is the book that Rory reads at Madeline’s party; she mentions to Tristan that the party gave her a chance to catch up on her reading.

The Art of Eating is a book of essays by M.F.K. Fisher, first published in 1954. Mary Frances Kennedy Fisher was one of America’s greatest food writers, and wrote 37 books on food in her lifetime, which combine food literature, travel, and memoir.

The Art of Eating collects five of her most famous books into one volume: How to Cook a Wolf (1942), Consider the Oyster (1941), Serve it Forth (1937), The Gastronomical Me (1943), and Alphabet for Gourmets (1949). The books includes portraits of quirky family and friends, travel notes from Fisher’s time in France, and tips on surviving World War II, interspersed with recipes.

Although it might seem strange that the junk food loving Rory would read a book on gourmet food, M.F.K. Fisher has a wonderful and witty prose style that any aspiring writer could admire. Her life of travel and adventure is something Rory would love to have, and throughout the series both Rory and Lorelai showed a great interest in biography and memoir of all kinds. It is also reminiscent of Lorelai’s fascination with the Food Network after breaking up with Max.

(Another odd link between Rory and the author is that Fisher and her first husband celebrated their three-month wedding anniversary by going out to a good restaurant. It strangely seems to fit with Rory’s situation, as she and Dean just celebrated their three-month anniversary at a bistro. Perhaps the fact that it was Fisher’s first husband is also relevant – Dean is just her first boyfriend).

Henry

LANE: I have a major problem … Henry, the guy I’ve been dancing with? … Okay so he’s really good in school, he’s going to be a doctor – pediatrician to be exact – his parents are extremely involved in their local church. He himself helps out with Sunday school. He speaks Korean fluently, he respects his parents, and he’s also really cute, very funny, and surprisingly interesting.
RORY: Lane I’m sorry, but I’m totally failing to see the problem here.
LANE: I’m falling for a guy my parents would approve of! They’d love him, they’d go crazy! There’d be dancing in the Kim house! Dancing!

When Lane meets Henry Cho (Eddie Shin) and is genuinely attracted to him, she is horrified to discover that a smart Korean-American future doctor really isn’t such a bad proposition after all. We see now that Lane would never have been happy with any boy her parents set her up with, as what she really wants is someone her parents wouldn’t approve of. Who knows how many nice boys Lane has rejected simply because they were foisted on her by her parents?

By the way, this exchange shows that the Kims are not complete religious bigots: Henry isn’t a Seventh Day Adventist as he assists at Sunday school, but Lane’s parents would still approve of him. They obviously don’t insist that their daughter marry someone of the same religion, and just being a Christian is enough.

Henry has, for some reason, the same name as the actor Henry Cho, who had been in films such as McHale’s Navy, and Say It Isn’t So, later alluded to as one of the possible “disgusting cow” movies of 2001. He was also a guest on An Evening at the Improv, later discussed.

“At least you had a boyfriend”

PARIS: So where is your boyfriend?
RORY: We, um, we broke up.
PARIS: Oh. Well, at least you had a boyfriend for a while.

Although she is socially awkward, I think Paris genuinely means this to be comforting. Notice that Paris has thin braided pigtails among loose hair – the same way Rory did her hair for the Bangles concert, where she and Paris bonded. Paris must admire Rory to some extent to copy her hair style. Also notice that Rory is willing to tell Paris the truth about her break up with Dean, whereas she avoided telling Louise when she asked the same question.

“Who’s watching the farm?”

MADELINE: You came!
RORY: Yeah.
LOUISE: Who’s watching the farm?

Louise continues to treat Rory as if she is some backwoods hick, even though she’s actually visited her and seen she lives in a normal house in a town – and was taken to a concert in New York by Rory’s mother. She really is quite a pain, and a bit of a ninny. (One of the reasons for her hostility may be that she and Rory appear to be wearing the same necklace, and have very similar red floral patterns on their dresses).

 

Luke’s Fight with Dean

When Dean tries to enter the diner (maybe he’s one of the mysterious 6 am crowd who get up early on Saturdays?), Luke forbids him, and they end up in a physical altercation in the street. It is obvious that Luke has never liked Dean – if you look back at all their earlier interactions, Luke always had an air of underlying hostility just waiting to bubble over. He is protective of Rory, and genuinely doesn’t believe Dean is good enough for her.

The fight between them proves that Lorelai was right when she warned Dean from the beginning that he would not be safe in Stars Hollow if he ever hurt Rory, as the whole town loves her.

“One step away from stalker material”

LORELAI: Okay, forget about the meatball, okay? Just tell me what happened.
RORY: He just broke up with me, okay?
LORELAI: That doesn’t make sense. This is Dean we’re talking about. He’s crazy about you. He calls like twenty-five times a day. Have you seen the cover of his notebook? It’s one step away from stalker material.

Another hint from Lorelai about Dean’s obsessive (and perhaps possessive) nature when it comes to Rory.

“We just broke up”

Lorelai returns home with her lovelorn depression all the deeper after the evening’s events. She was set up with a boring man by her mother, who, when challenged, pointed out that Lorelai has had never had a relationship last as long as three months. If she hoped to find comfort with Luke, even the comfort of friendship, she also witnessed him reuniting with his long-lost ex-girlfriend Rachel, leaving Lorelai on the outer.

Lorelai picks up the phone and calls Max, only to get through to his answering machine. Before she can leave a message, Rory comes home and says “We just broke up”, so that Lorelai must comfort her daughter, whose night was even worse than hers.

We never witness the break up between Rory and Dean, so we don’t know what happened after he said he would drive her home. We don’t know who broke up with whom, or if they really broke up at all. Perhaps Rory is so inexperienced at relationships that she automatically thinks a bad fight means you have broken up, even if nobody says anything. (Maybe Dean thinks that too).

At the very least, we know the relationship between Rory and Dean has gone sour, and that the two of them have missed all the clues that they aren’t really suited to each other that the audience has been picking up on for months.

We also see a different side to Dean that has been hinted at in the past but has now become obvious: when he feels that Rory is not giving him what he is due in the relationship, he becomes angry and sulky, and refuses to listen to her. Unfortunately, it sets up a dynamic where Rory pleads with Dean, and tries to placate him, in a way which suggests she is frightened of his temper.

We saw a little of it in the Donna Reed incident, and now we see it full-blown. Despite the break-up, we will see more of it throughout their relationship. More than anything else, it is probably this unhealthy pattern of behaviour which convinces most viewers that Dean is not right for Rory.

“You don’t get pregnant saying I love you”

RORY: Dean. Please, it’s just not that easy for me. I mean, saying “I love you” means a lot. Think about it from my point of view. I mean, my mom and our life. I mean, my mom said that she loved my dad and then . . .
DEAN: You don’t get pregnant saying “I love you”.

Dean is being almost stubbornly dim-witted here, and refusing to consider how Rory’s family circumstances might have coloured her feelings about love, because her parents were teenagers who loved each other, but didn’t stay together. Lorelai told Rory that she would always love Christopher, but she still refused his marriage proposal, and he went away. In other words, Rory knows that love is not enough, it isn’t any guarantee that your relationship will last. Saying “I love you” is filled with anxiety for Rory, because in her limited experience, the next thing that happens is “Goodbye”.

The fact that Dean’s mind jumped straight to pregnancy might suggest that he was hoping a shared “I love you” might be the first step toward having sex with Rory.

“Go home and discuss it with your mother”

RORY: Please, don’t be mad.
DEAN: Why? Because I say I love you and you wanna think about it? I mean, go home and discuss it with your mother? Make one of your pro/con lists?

Dean’s angry comment suggests that there’s some real jealousy of Rory’s closeness with her mother at work, and perhaps the knowledge that everything in their relationship will be talked over with Lorelai rankles. He may feel that things would have progressed faster with Rory if her mother wasn’t always around.

This is the first explicit mention of Rory’s pro-con lists, which are apparently essential to her decision-making process. They will continue to feature in Gilmore Girls.